So, this time, I will explain about “I don’t know what it is, but it’s a great habit that brings good luck.”
“There are rich people, popular people, and successful people in the world.”
Looking at these people, some people think that they are naturally lucky and compare themselves with the unlucky ones and sigh.
However, the truth is that luck is not decided at birth.
For example, “My family was poor, so I couldn’t buy toys and games that I liked.”
“Some people may have had an experience like this.”
“Even in this situation, luck will not abandon us.”
Any person can become a lucky person if they notice the slight difference between good luck and bad luck.
“The difference is very small.” Anyone can become a lucky person with just a small change in attitude and thinking.
“In this book, I don’t know what it is, but it introduces a step to replace the lucky owner.”
In this blog, I will explain 12 of them that I have carefully selected.
“Then let’s learn together.”
- A lucky person has a different unconscious first step to every event
- Luck dwells in those who are good at receiving
- The reason you don’t notice your luck is because you’re covering up your own luck
- If you say it’s okay to your negative self, luck will come to you.
- I regret everything here, and erase the next regret
- Write out a list of things you don’t want to do
- You don’t have to be an adult to be strong
- If you put out your black heart, you can make real friends
- Bring out your dark self according to TPO
- Realize that 99% of failures are invisible
- Struggling is a kind of play
- How to deal with parental dissatisfaction
- summary
A lucky person has a different unconscious first step to every event
The difference between those who are lucky and those who aren’t is whether or not they can be seen as lucky in response to the various events that occur in their daily lives.
“It’s a very small thing, but it makes a huge difference.”
Accepting any event with a pleasant feeling is the same characteristic of a person who wins a lottery prize of 100 million yen.
“It has the following three characteristics.”
① Buy a lottery ticket casually
② They enjoy the act of buying without regretting whether they win or lose.
③ Buy a lottery ticket when you are excited.
While there are rich people who buy about 100 tickets and don’t win a single one, there are also people who look very ordinary and don’t stand out and buy only one ticket, but win big and become rich.
For example, do you think “I’m so lucky that all the traffic lights are green!” or “I just used up my luck…”?
When a good thing happens to a friend, do they get together and say, “That’s good!”, or do they get jealous in their hearts?
“The difference in the very first reaction to various events is getting wider and wider, making the difference between bad luck and bad luck.”
“If you realize this, anyone can become a lucky person.”
Anything that goes through a good filter will be fun, and a bad one will be painful.
Lucky people unconsciously have a good filter for the former.
Luck dwells in those who are good at receiving
For example, when Mr. Wahei Takeda, who was called Japan’s number one investor, went to eat, he would rush into the kitchen and say, “It was delicious. Thank you!”
“Then, the next time I went to that store, the people at the store came to the entrance to see me off on my way home.”
Like Mr. Takeda, the more you receive everyday events with a happy feeling, the more luck you will bring, and the people around you will be happy if you give it to this person.
As a result, the number of people who bring luck and the amount of luck they hold will increase.
“To be chosen by luck is to cause a chain like this.” By having fun and turning your awareness, you will be able to receive what is carried lightly.
“That’s why it’s so important to be aware of your current luck and be happy when it arrives.”
The reason you don’t notice your luck is because you’re covering up your own luck
“The truth is, everyone is naturally lucky.”
“I don’t think so because I’m covering my own luck.”
This is because being “lucky” can easily become the object of jealousy from those around you. That’s why I hide it so that other people won’t notice it.
Japanese people value it so that they don’t stand out from the crowd, so even if a lucky thing happens, they will behave in such a way that it won’t be noticed.
And if you go too far, you’ll prevent luck from coming to you with your own hands. Because then there will be no waves.
“However, if you overdo it, you’ll end up losing your luck.”
“If you’re lucky, you’ll be loved by the people around you.”
In order to receive the luck that comes from upstream through various people, it is necessary to have a vessel that can receive great love.
If you hide your luck, or think that you are not worthy of being loved anyway, you will become embarrassed and run away, thinking that even if great love flows, you will not be able to accept it because you are a worthless person. It will end up.
If you say it’s okay to your negative self, luck will come to you.
Many people have the image that negative people are “weak”.
“But it’s not like that, it’s rather strong.” Because you can’t stand dark feelings unless you’re strong enough.
“Therefore, if you relax a little and surrender, you won’t be able to endure the dark feelings, and your feelings will automatically switch to a positive one.”
“Surrendering is a powerful switch that switches to good luck mode.”
“Weakness” is the way to push this.
It’s the exact opposite of what is often said about working hard and staying positive, but the more you surrender, the easier you feel.
To surrender is to stop trying to do your best or push yourself, like “I can’t do it anymore” or “I can’t do it anymore”.
“If you surrender, your painful feelings will disappear somewhere.” And you feel lighter.
“You don’t have to try hard to be positive in order to change to a good luck mindset.”
“Give in to your negative feelings and accept them.”
I regret everything here, and erase the next regret
“In the world, people often say that you should live your life without regrets or live yourself without regrets.”
“But I’d rather regret it.” Because the fact that you regret a lot is the proof that you tried to do something a lot.
“People have a habit of hiding their regrets.”
“The only reason it didn’t work was bad timing, so it can’t be helped.”
However, this disguise of existing regrets will become the source of new regrets.
“That’s why it’s important to dare to regret it.”
“By regretting, you can say OK to the regrets you have now, and you won’t regret it next time.”
“You will no longer lie to yourself about your feelings.”
Write out a list of things you don’t want to do
In order to eliminate your negative emotions, it is effective to write down what you don’t want to do and make a “list”.
For those who can’t think of writing, it’s actually easier to come up with words when they think about words that will follow them socially as a person.
“We do things we don’t want to do for various reasons.”
“That’s how I gradually put a lid on my feelings so that I don’t notice what I really don’t want to do.”
However, when I write down what I don’t want to do on paper and admit that I don’t want to do it, something inside me changes.
“It’s OK to do things you don’t want to do that you wrote down.”
“The important thing is to be honest with yourself.”
“Please change the habit of covering up things you don’t want to do.” This is what it means to take care of yourself.
For some reason, if you value your true feelings, you’ll end up in a situation where you don’t have to do things you don’t want to do. Or you may be convinced that you can do it unexpectedly.
You don’t have to be an adult to be strong
“Everyone can be jealous of someone who is lucky.”
However, if you feel like criticizing the other person, quickly admit your jealousy and admit that you really want to be like that too.
And the fact that I want to be like that also means I believe I can do it. Admit this too.
“The more you put a lid on what you believe you can do, the more jealousy you end up throwing at the other person.”
However, we don’t get jealous of things that we think we can’t do or things that we have no interest in.
In other words, jealousy is also a compass that makes you realize that what you want to be is not for you.
“That’s why jealousy isn’t a bad thing.”
“You don’t have to grow up to realize your luck.”
“We feel that jealousy is something we shouldn’t do, and we feel a sense of rejection.” On the other hand, I think that feelings of admiration and respect are very good.
However, jealousy and respect are like two sides of the same coin.
“This is because with a little effort, you can transform your feelings of jealousy into feelings of admiration and respect.”
“When I’m tormented by jealousy, I tend to focus on the other side of the coin: jealousy.”
However, there is also a sense of respect on the surface.
“So, when you feel jealous, try to consciously turn your attention to the obverse side of the coin.”
“Even if you don’t try to get rid of jealousy, it will switch to admiration.”
“Even if I feel jealous or admiring, it makes me feel better when I’m okay with it.”
If you put out your black heart, you can make real friends
“It’s very important to stop lying about your feelings.”
If you become honest with yourself, you will feel despair about your black feelings, thinking that you were thinking such a terrible thing.
“The more serious people who have played themselves to match the people around them, the more difficult it is for them to accept the black true feelings that have been revealed here.”
“Because I think that if other people notice me, they will hate me.”
“But that’s not the case.” It can be reassuring to be a little irritated or to show a black side.
“In other words, people who aren’t good guys can feel a sense of closeness and humanity to the other person.”
“Therefore, it’s fine to open up such black parts.”
“By doing so, you should be able to make really good friends.”
“There may be people who open their black hearts and say terrible or unfounded things.”
“However, such a person lives in such a way that neither roots nor leaves grow.” It will dry out eventually, so don’t worry about it.
When you connect only with people you get along with and feel happy, your own flowers will bloom.
For those who find it difficult to open up about their black selves, I would like to recommend that they consider their black selves as the protagonist of a story.
When negative emotions arise, try to get into the habit of thinking, “What if I was the main character of a story with such emotions?”
Bring out your dark self according to TPO
“When you become an adult, you will be required to behave in ways that fall under TPO.”
“This applies not only to your proper self, but also to your dark self.”
However, it’s the same as a physiological phenomenon to show your frustrated self or negative self.
“You need to be careful how you put it out, but it’s not a bad thing.”
“For French people, being depressed is a kind of status.” When the French say they are depressed today, they have many meanings.
“I’m smart, so I think about a lot of things and get gloomy.”
For the French, his dark feeling is a kind of status as wise proof.
“When you’re worried about various things and can’t get out of your depression, try saying, I’m smart, so I think about a lot of things and get depressed right away.” Subtly effective.
Realize that 99% of failures are invisible
It’s easy to get shy and paralyzed, especially when you’re feeling down.
The cause of this is the feeling of fear, “What if it doesn’t work out?”
“When we try something, we have a feeling of shrinking back if it turns out to be a bad result.”
“The more serious and sincere people are, the stronger this feeling is.”
“The feeling of fear makes it even harder to take action.”
“However, many people who are doing various things don’t really care about the results.”
“Instead, some people quit easily because they’re bored.” Some people just quit for reasons like, “I tried it, but I didn’t feel like it.”
“She’s light-hearted even though she’s doing things that surprise the people around her.”
“Therefore, the number of things I’ve tried is unnecessarily large.” Then, quite a lot of things went well, and among them, there were a lot of things that happened to be successful.
“I completely forget about things that I’ve tried and failed, or things I’m tired of.”
“Therefore, when I talk to people, I only talk about things that went well.”
“Then, people around you will feel that you are a person who always produces results.”
In most cases, people around you don’t notice that you didn’t say anything about it in the first place.
“Other people aren’t as interested in other people as they think they are.”
“As a result, even if I fail, fail, or get bored, people around me won’t find out.”
“Once you understand this, you will be able to act as easily as going to a convenience store.”
Struggling is a kind of play
“There are people who, even if they want to be happy or take it easy, they can’t do it because they blame themselves.”
“Those kind of people are usually good people.”
This is because I want to give priority to what I like and enjoy for those close to me, rather than what I really like and enjoy.
“There is something I would like people who have been putting up with what they want to do to know.”
People who are unhappy or struggling often choose to play unhappy or struggling on their own initiative.
This is because people who are a little unhappy or who are having a hard time can connect with people who are in the same difficult situation.
“When we are in trouble, we are healed by sharing the same feelings with each other.”
For example, a mouse boy living in a tenement house.
“It’s a bit difficult to tell your neighbors if you leave the koban only at your own house.”
When you receive a gold coin from Nezumi-Kozou, it is more likely that you will have a better relationship with your neighbors if you say, “We both have a hard time because our finances are tight.”
In such a case, don’t judge the play on the scale of “good” or “bad.” .
Then, strangely enough, the other person listening will show interest in the same play as you.
If you start talking about “Actually, the mouse boy left the gold coin”, he may get excited, saying, “He came to my house yesterday,” or, “That’s nice.”
In this way, when you’re doing what you want to play, people around you will gather around you, thinking that that person seems to be having fun.
“So please don’t choose to play hard, and play fun from the beginning.”
How to deal with parental dissatisfaction
“Even though I’m a parent, I think there are some people who can’t forgive this.”
“We Japanese have a national trait of not letting anyone know about our dissatisfaction.”
“It’s especially hard to say to my family, who are the closest to me.”
If I express even a little dissatisfaction with my parents, people around me will say, “Your parents really love you, so please forgive me.” .”
For this reason, the more diligent a person is, the less likely they are to forgive their parents, but if they can just put up with it, they will bear the burden by themselves, and grow up with a sense of loneliness and resentment towards their parents.
“But it’s not like my parents can’t forgive me.”
“I can’t forgive myself for not being able to forgive my parents.” I can’t make peace with myself who thinks my parents are terrible.
“In other words, it’s not your parents’ problem, it’s your own attitude.”
“So, by forgiving yourself, you can let go of the sad feelings that your conscience didn’t understand.”
I can’t forgive my parents If I’m dragging my feelings of unforgiveness, I can’t get along with my family and parents lightly.
As a result, they subconsciously fear having a partner or getting married.
“It’s very important for me to forgive myself for having a grudge against my parents.”
When you put yourself at ease, the brakes on your heart will be released and you will begin to understand what you really want.
summary
“That’s all for the explanation.”
“If you can get along with your bad self, you will be lucky.”
This time, I explained the steps for how to hold your mind for that purpose.
“Getting along with my bad self is also something I can thank myself for.”
If you can say “thank you” to yourself, it will be easier for the people around you to thank you.
And gradually you will be able to appreciate people other than yourself.
Then, luck will circulate from you to others, and from others to yourself.
“The existence that we take for granted is “myself”.”
If you say “thank you” to your own existence, the people around you will treat you with respect and bring you a lot of luck.
“Please use this book as a reference and become a person who can accept yourself and appreciate yourself.”
“I hope that this commentary will help you to be happy.”
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