I decided to live my life like a game / Koichi Honda

This time, I will explain “I decided to live like a game” written by Koichi Honda, a businessman and writer.

In a nutshell, this book teaches you how to live with excitement.

“I think there are many people in Japan today who are lazy and live without dreams or hopes.”

He writes that he can make things more interesting by treating those days when he doesn’t feel well, in a sense, like a game, by going to places he hasn’t said, challenging things he could barely surpass, and talking to people he’s interested in.

“By looking at this book, you will be able to learn how to live with such excitement.”

We will post a summary below, so please refer to it and make your life better.

If you get bored, leave the village
People cause problems when they are free
If you don’t like yourself, try anything that seems to exceed your limits
Learn from people who are more handicapped than you
Learn from the person you fell in love with
Change the environment and update your common sense
Find her happiness for yourself and make it come true as soon as possible
Lucky people give to the people around them as much as they can afford
In the end, if you keep climbing the mountain, your soul will rot
summary

If you get bored, leave the village

“If life were a game, would you stay and wander around in the same area or village?”

“You won’t.” It’s boring, so if you do what you do at home, you should quickly leave the village and go to a new stage.

In this book, the feelings of “boredom”, “free time”, and “boring” are expressed in terms of the rotting soul.

“If you’re feeling bored, it’s time to start something new.” In other words, you should leave the village immediately.

However, unlike a game, life is safe and secure, as long as you stay in the village without stepping out of the village, you won’t end up with a game over, you won’t be in trouble, you won’t be disappointed, and you won’t be defeated by a powerful enemy. Besides, I think it’s scary to leave the village without a purpose.

However, he says that a life where you value yourself too much becomes boring.

“It wouldn’t be fun if the hero didn’t get scared and go on an adventure.”

You must have been thrilled when you went fishing for the first time, at an event festival, or at a club. Just getting my driver’s license and driving on the highway at night made me excited.

Even if you act and have a tragic event or something serious, the game will be more exciting. Anime, manga, and games without any pinch are the same as boring things.

Also, in regards to the fear of taking action, aside from the primitive times, you don’t die by taking action now, so if you feel like you’re getting bored or bored lately, it’s the best time to step out of where you are now and take action on something new or interesting.

“If you take a step like that, you may be able to find what you want to do and what your goals are.”

By the way, the author, after listening to the story of a senior who went to Australia, took the unexpected action of cycling around Australia.

People cause problems when they are free

“Fundamentally, people are creatures that can’t stand idleness.”

When I actually have free time, I worry deeply about my slight flaws, hit people one by one on social media, and do things I shouldn’t have done. It may be because many criminals are unemployed because they have too much free time.

In fact, the author decided to stay in Tahiti for 10 nights on his honeymoon, but after staying for about 5 days, he was too bored and bored, and he wanted stimulation.

“When free days continue like this, people can’t stand their free time and start to cause problems.”

To prevent that from happening, when you start feeling bored or bored, it’s time to go find something to pass the time.

If you don’t like yourself, try anything that seems to exceed your limits

“Originally, it’s okay to be nothing.” I wish I could be recognized as good for myself, but I don’t think so.

“Confidence cannot be acquired by idling around.”

So, if you are unsure of yourself and feel uneasy about it, I would suggest that you try looking beyond your limits.

Limits are, for example, trying to push yourself to the limit by doing muscle training, trying to work hard at Sagawa Express, studying to the limit and aiming for a good university, working like a demon on a side job and earning 100,000 yen a month… and trying things you may not be able to do on your own.

Mr. Shogo Hamai, who actually passed the exam at Waseda University at the age of 27 after 9 ronin, says that he acquired a sense of self-esteem from ronin. In the author’s case, driving through the jungle and desert on the road to Cape York in Australia gave him confidence when he saw beyond his limits.

In terms of a game, this would be like challenging a boss or a quest that you can barely beat.

In this way, it’s important to be able to think to yourself, “I’m amazing,” “I’m cool,” and “I’m good at it.”

“It’s better to challenge yourself to a goal that’s at the limit of your limits, rather than being dazed and rotten in the village.”

Learn from people who are more handicapped than you

When trying to do something to like themselves, some people often get caught up in negative thoughts like, “No, I’m not talented, he’s ugly, stupid, and has no guts.”

Some people withdraw into the village because of such thoughts. That’s how you repeat self-denial and lead a boring and uninteresting life.

When you feel overwhelmed by your shobo and lack of talent, the important thing is to look around.

“Life is like an open-world RPG, so there are many other players besides yourself.”

If you look around you, there should be many people who have lower handicaps than you, but still achieve their goals. For example, there are people who were born into a poor family but became millionaires, and there are people who are popular despite their bad looks. There are people who have become popular despite being bald, and people who are blind but have become pianists.

By receiving advice from such people and referring to them, even if you have a handicap similar to yours, you can get hints on how to overcome or nullify it.

In terms of the game, it’s an image that you can clear faster if you get advice from people such as “It’s easy to level up in that cave”, “That skill is strong”, and “You can buy this cloak in that town”.

In fact, when the author was a student, he met a senior who was short, had no educational background, and had a low income.

It seems that the author learned about talks from that senior.

I can learn a lot from someone who has achieved his goals even though he has many handicaps, and just looking at him gives me courage.

Learn from the person you fell in love with

It is easier to achieve your goals by learning various things from others than by working hard on your own, but what kind of people should you learn from?

“People have a habit of wanting to listen to the person they fall in love with.”

For example, if his personal gym trainer was a fat old man, would he want to learn how to do muscle training from such a person? I’m sure you’ll think in your heart, “You don’t say that.”

However, if the personal gym trainer is muscular, enters contests, and is constantly challenging himself, many people will fall in love with his way of life and will listen to what such a person has to say.

Because if you listen to this person, he will get closer to this person.

In addition, the words said by the opposite sex that I like resonate strongly with me, and the things that my favorite celebrities say and the seniors that I look up to say come to mind.

In the author’s case, the English deviation score was 38, but thanks to the enthusiastic teaching of English from a cute woman at an English conversation school, he mastered English conversation at an unbelievable speed.

“Such a person you fall in love with has a huge impact on you.”

By the way, when I say “I fell in love” or “cool” here, it means that I fell in love not only with love, but also as a human being.

“From a human point of view, I like people who are cool and I learn from people who I think are cool… This is the most important thing in learning something.”

In particular, it is written that men have a tendency to learn at Mach if they think they are cool.

And perhaps this will be the main theme of this book. In this way, it’s good to be conscious of learning from people who think “this person is cool” and “cool”, not from people who think “this person is lame” or “difficult”, whether it’s studying, work, or muscle training.

Change the environment and update your common sense

The things that everyone takes for granted are different due to the environment they grew up in, their preconceptions, and prejudices. If you rewrite the obvious, you say that the reality will change greatly.

For people who actually do muscle training, it’s normal to drink protein, do muscle training, and get plenty of sleep.

Also, it’s become commonplace for popular men to take care of their skin, fix their hair, and pay attention to their clothes, just like women.

In this way, common sense varies greatly depending on the group. As a result, a guy who wasn’t popular at all suddenly becomes well groomed and has a girlfriend as soon as he joins a popular group.

“To do that, it’s important to first get into places where people want to be.”

In the author’s case, he thought, “Marriage is the foundation of everything, and if that foundation is shaky, you will never be happy.” He also writes that after listening to stories of happy couples, he gradually became able to imagine a realistic image of himself getting married and becoming happy.

Also, when the author saw Ken Honda, a writer, he was stunned and decided to become the person who carries his bag. Anyway, I keep meeting people I fell in love with.

“Now that we have SNS, it’s good to connect with people who have the same aspirations as you.” That way, things will gradually change.

“Anyway, the important thing is to be conscious of meeting people you care about and trying to belong to that group.”

Find her happiness for yourself and make it come true as soon as possible

I think there are many people who think that successful people who have everything are shining and dazzling, but when it comes to whether they are really happy, we don’t know.

In fact, celebrities and business owners sometimes commit suicide.

“It’s often said that money can prevent unhappiness, but it doesn’t make you happy.”

“Therefore, the important thing is to find your own happiness.”

If you think about what it means to be happy for yourself, there are many different types of happiness, such as the happiness of living in a tower mansion, the happiness of living in a capsule hotel, the happiness of eating fine food, and the happiness of eating cup noodles at home. Also, if there is happiness to live in a relaxed way, there is also happiness to overcome difficulties after finishing muscle training.

“Some people are reckless in their efforts to aim higher in the game, while others just want to have fun with everyone.”

“In this way, the point at which each person feels happy is slightly different.”

“The important thing is to try different things, find out what makes you happy, and pursue it.”

It seems that the point at this time is not to deceive yourself or lie to yourself. Many people wrap their desires too neatly in oblates for the sake of the world, people, and the environment, and he no longer understands his true desires.

Rather than that, he says it’s important to be honest with yourself and not hide your ulterior motives, like you’re working hard to be popular, or you want to live in Tawaman.

In this way, people are simple creatures who can’t work hard for what they don’t really want. People who can’t work hard or who don’t have passion may be suppressing their ulterior motives in a sense.

By the way, if you know what you want, it’s important to start working to achieve that goal as soon as possible. People work hard for what they really want.

Lucky people give to the people around them as much as they can afford

Assuming that this life is a game, the person who will be most successful is not the person who works hard on his own, but the person who has the support and cooperation of many people.

He knows how much he can do alone.

And in order to get cooperation, it is necessary to be a person who can be given to many people. By being generous and making people feel better, by giving presents, by teaching and sharing valuable information, and by doing so, the seeds you sow will sprout, bloom, bear fruit, and come back to life.

In fact, in the book “Give and Take” written by Adam Grant, it is written that “the person who logically gains the most is the giver.”

However, it is also written that the person who loses the most is the one who gives.

“In other words, there are people who don’t give anything in return, and some people don’t even thank you.”

“The important thing is not to force yourself to give.”

“Those who are willing to sacrifice themselves and give to others will have a hard time thinking, ‘He gave so much,’ if he doesn’t get anything in return.”

However, if you can afford it and share it with others as long as you don’t lose yourself, you won’t mind if it doesn’t come back.

It’s best to give it to someone in a state where you can afford not to lose when you give it, like giving the other person the leftover dessert when you’re full.

In particular, what the author says is good to give is “learned knowledge and information”.

“Information doesn’t decrease, so it’s easy to give.” If you give the other person the information they want, such as good restaurants, cosmetic equipment that they carry, things to be careful of, etc., it will not be reduced.

In the end, if you keep climbing the mountain, your soul will rot

After clearing all the games or achieving a certain level of success at work, I would like to immerse myself in that sense of accomplishment, but doing so gradually becomes boring, boredom and boredom, and my soul rots.

In fact, the author’s parent’s company was about to collapse and the debt ballooned to 800 million yen, but he worked hard and became rich. It seems to be a happy life for everyone, but it is said that it gradually became boring after staying there for a while.

“I’m tired of seeing the scenery from the top of the mountain I’ve climbed so desperately.”

Also, when people who have worked hard to become rich become rich and their desires are satisfied, they begin to wonder what I am working hard for. So we need new motivation.

If it’s boring, you can get off the mountain and try a new mountain, but if you stay there, you’ll be respected, you can live a comfortable life, and you can be the leader of the mountain.

However, the author says that when you feel this way, it’s time to switch to a new game. That means it’s time for him to once again go down the mountain and take on a new game mountain objective.