This time, I’d like to introduce you to a book written by bestselling author Tucker Max and renowned evolutionary psychologist Dr.
The theory of evolution is the idea that animals and plants were not created in their present form, but that they have evolved over time and changed their form.
What kind of partner you are attracted to is closely related to the prosperity and evolution of a species, and it was scientifically elucidated by evolutionary psychology, which studies the behavior and psychology that people take for evolution.
In this book, scholars give a lot of scientifically popular advice, so if you want to be popular, please refer to it.
understand what girls want
The first step is to “understand what girls want and why they want it.”
A vast amount of research over the past 30 years has shown that women’s preferences are neither whimsical nor complicated. It seems to be very clear.
We know that all women, regardless of culture or ethnicity, repeatedly choose men who are fundamentally similar to them. Simply put, he is a talented man.
In the natural world as a whole, females prefer competent males and ignore incompetent males. This is biologically a natural way to adapt to environmental changes, survive, and thrive.
So, if you want to be popular, you need to tell a woman how competent you are.
Therefore, there are two things a man needs to do to convey his competence to a woman.
One is the “ability” to acquire and demonstrate her competent characteristics, and the other is the “willingness” to use that ability to give a woman what she wants.
No matter how talented you are, if you don’t have the desire to go out with a woman, you won’t develop into a relationship.
“Next, I’ll introduce you to how to be seen as competent by a woman.”
Curb incompetence first
Their competence as living creatures biologically attracts women.
“But many men have work to do before they become more competent.” That’s what it means to curb incompetence.
Using baseball as an example, the first thing you should do to contribute to the team is not to just practice hitting home runs, but to get to base without striking out and to practice steadily so that you don’t fail on defense. It doesn’t make sense to focus on hitting home runs when the basics aren’t working.
“The same can be said for being popular.”
“The first thing to do is to stop bad behavior before acquiring competence and appealing.” Competence is liked by “many” women, but incompetence is disliked by “all” women.
Regardless of culture or race, women are creatures that intuitively dislike narcissists, creepy men, weirdos, stalkers, and unintelligent men. Eliminating incompetence is much more important than increasing competence.
For example, instead of splitting your abs into six packs, cure your beer belly.
“Be careful of bad breath by brushing your teeth and taking care of your breath before dressing up in luxury brands.”
“That’s it.”
Get a healthy look
I will explain the five characteristics that you should acquire in order to become a competent man.
“The first thing is to be healthy.” It is safe to say that there is no more efficient way to do this. To be popular, it is important to look healthy.
In fact, when choosing a partner based on their appearance, it is an important factor for living beings to see how long they are likely to survive, in other words, whether they are healthy.
“You don’t need to have a perfect body, just a normal body.” You don’t have to be the bulky, ripped abs of a professional athlete, or the muscular macho of a bodybuilder.
Rather, if you go to the gym and get addicted to shaping your body, you run the risk of making yourself feel like a narcissist who always looks in the mirror and admires your body.
The important thing is to acquire healthy sleeping, exercising, and eating habits.
“It’s also important to pay attention to your posture.”
“It may seem trivial, but a stooped posture looks unhealthy and unpopular, so you should fix it now.”
Get heart health
The second of the five characteristics that should be acquired is mental health.
A woman instinctively senses a man’s state of mind. This is because women are more vulnerable to attacks from men. For example, if she shows even the slightest bit of frustration, she worries that this guy might become dangerously violent.
That’s why I still feel fear, anxiety, and sexual disgust towards men who are not mentally healthy.
On the contrary, characteristics such as “happiness”, “humor”, “resilience”, “cheerfulness” and “tolerance” are signs of mental health and attract many women.
And most of these characteristics are also lost due to mental illness.
In order to obtain such mental health, the three things you can do right now are “sleep”, “nutrition”, and “exercise”, which are exactly the same as improving your physical health.
You may think it’s too obvious, but this is such an important improvement method that a good psychiatrist will advance a patient before any treatment.
“Don’t complain” is also a recommended method.
Complaining about the store or talking about the driving of the car in front of you… Negative remarks like that give the impression that you are a weak man.
“That’s why, just by not complaining, you can give the impression of being mentally tough and become more popular.”
Show cleverness
The third of the five traits for popularity is cleverness.
“The strength to survive has changed in the process of evolution.”
This is because in order to survive, intelligence has become more important than muscles due to changes in society.
“Smartness” here indicates how well the brain is working. Textbook smarts are important for financial success, but not so much for popularity.
In recent years, the British Broadcasting Corporation BBC surveyed 20,000 people out of 53 countries about the most attractive traits of a partner.
Of the top eight characteristics, three are related to intelligence: intelligence, humor, and communication skills.
The point is to try to have humorous conversations. It allows you to show off your intelligence. If you don’t have confidence in your conversation, it’s better to keep quiet and listen, don’t pretend to know what you don’t know, and don’t know what you don’t know.
Such intellectual humility is also an important sign of regulation.
Show solidity
The fourth of the five traits for mote is constancy.
Consistency here refers to the ability to achieve long-term goals, and can also be rephrased as resilience and perseverance. In short, a man who consistently completes troublesome tasks to the end is popular.
In all cultures studied so far, women have, on average, been found to be more consistent than men. In other words, most men appear very childish, unreliable, and slovenly in the eyes of women.
On the other hand, women also know that a man who is more steadfast is less likely to pick up another attractive girl or cheat on her in her first year of marriage.
In fact, a study conducted in 46 countries found that men with a high degree of steadfastness are more likely to build long-term relationships, even in romantic relationships, and have little interest in short-term relationships.
The best way to actually improve your solidity is to repeatedly “set goals and achieve them”, but the recommended way to appeal to your solidity is to keep your surroundings clean.
In fact, a man who always keeps his room, car, and appearance clean and tidy is seen as highly conscientious and popular.
Show kindness and masculinity
“Suddenly, it’s a quiz.”
“What do women want from men, kindness or masculinity?”
“The correct answer is “both”.”
Many women don’t like either of the two extremes, be it a man who’s just gentle, or a guy who’s just masculine.
“Kindness” is cited as one of the characteristics that women around the world look for in a partner.
The “kindness” that this woman seeks is empathy, consideration, and tolerance, and she is attracted to men helping those in need. Because it reminds me of her lovely lover, her partner’s father.
At the same time, I also like “powerful” masculinity. However, even if I say manly, I don’t like men who are irritable or unnecessarily rough.
In other words, what women want from men is a “gentle bodyguard”.
As a way to show kindness, the book recommends getting a dog and taking care of it, or volunteering with her regularly. Surprisingly, many women are attracted to men who are kind to their dogs and pets.
Also, it seems that making sports a hobby is a quick and easy way to express your masculinity.
Concentrate your gaze and your mind during a conversation
So far, I have explained the five characteristics of being popular.
① Mental and physical health
② Mental health
③ Wisdom
④ Consistency
⑤ Kindness and masculinity
If you can develop these characteristics and show your ability, you should be able to become a scientifically popular man.
And finally, I’ll explain one simple technique that will make you popular.
“Have you ever had the experience of “the person you’re talking to doesn’t really listen to you, and looks around with their eyes looking around”? It makes me very anxious.
And women are more sensitive to eye movements than men.
From the old days, “I only look at one woman and don’t look at other women” is one of the effective ways to reassure women.
“So if you’re talking to a girl you like, don’t look around and focus on her actions and conversation.”
At that time, if you are thinking about something else that doesn’t matter or if your gaze is moving here and there, it will be immediately transmitted and your favorable impression will decrease.
The direction of gaze and the concentration of the mind are easy-to-understand signals that convey interest in the other person.
In other words, if a pretty girl keeps glancing at her every time she walks by, it can’t be helped that the girl she’s with will let her down.
Summary
1 Understand what girls want
2 Suppress incompetence first
3 Get a healthy look
4 Obtain mental health
5 Show wisdom
6 Demonstrate solidity
7 Show kindness and masculinity
8 Concentrate your eyes and mind when talking
All that’s left is practice!
I hope I can be of some help to your happiness.
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